I get quite a bit of e-mail about poker and gambling with most being positive. Occasional I get an inquiry such as I've addressed here concerning the worries of the negative aspects of the game of poker, namely addiction and moral corruption. I have posted the recent e-mail (with permission and the names removed) along with my response. I would greatly appreciate reader comments and advice on this subject.
The E-mail from “Concerned Wife”:
“Looking for some advice and information resources. My teenage son plays Texas Hold 'Em with his friends about twice a week. The typical buy in is $20. He wins 90% of the time by my rough calculation.
My wife is concerned about 2 things- his becoming addicted to gambling, and taking advantage of less experienced players. My son has assured me that he would stop playing after losing $40 on any given night. He is a full time college student with a full time summer job and a very cocky attitude. He often watches WSOP on tv [sic].”
The PokerProf’s Response:
I am not sure you have anything to worry about here. Your son is exhibiting typical behavior for his age group and considering the recent spectacular rise in the popularity of poker, I’m surprised he only plays a couple of times a week. Please realize that I'm not an expert on the subject of addiction and therefore cannot offer any solutions, only opinions, which will hopefully give your wife some peace of mind. Poker is a game (sport) that can be mastered and through study combined with practice it becomes a vocation for some. When the casual, recreational poker player moves up to the professional ranks the game becomes work, very hard work. When you are playing you are at your job and to do your job well requires a dedication to develop and practice many skills. You indicated your son has a nine to one win ratio among his peers and that would indicate he has developed a very respectable understanding of the basic game. He also has set a stop loss to control his play bankroll, another indication of a serious, mature approach to the game. Probably, no matter how much you may nag him, he is not going to walk away from the game; so, you may want to consider becoming involved in his efforts and provide him with some good instructional poker books and encourage him to study and become a student of the game.
Your wife indicated that she is concerned he may become addicted to gambling (I am assuming as a result of playing poker). If your son has an addictive personality (does he smoke, drink, do drugs or anything to excess?) and begins to spend all of his time and resources playing whatever games of chance he can find (i.e. Lotteries, slot machines, most casino games-craps, blackjack, and sport’s bets) then you would, as the responsible parent, address this apparent addiction problem through professional evaluation and therapy. You can monitor his spending habits, college attendance and grades for early indications of gambling trouble. You did not mention if your son plays poker on-line, not a problem unto itself unless he spends an inordinate amount of his time in front of the computer plugged into casinos. His mother is concerned that he takes advantage of less experienced players and she considers this to be a problem. Isn’t this what sports is all about? Professional sports figures are dedicated to becoming the very best at what they do and through their skills they beat the competition. Bobby Bonds takes advantage of pitchers, Lance Armstrong takes advantage of other riders and Doyle Brunson takes advantage of poker players. No worry here, you need to quickly move this fear from the negative to the positive side of the page and be very happy he has the ability to take advantage of other players since this is an undeniable attribute of a winner.
To sum up our thoughts about your perceived problem, I don’t think you really have any justifiable concerns at this point. In fact, I think you are quite lucky to have a son that goes to college full time, works full time at his summer job and has learned enough about the game of poker to hold his own with his peers. And that cocky attitude? At his age I would be concerned if he didn’t an ‘attitude.’ If he continues to pursue his poker abilities he will fine tune that attitude to his advantage (Watch Phil Hellmuth, Mike Matusow, and Men Nyugen on televised poker). Watching the WSOP on TV is definitely not a problem and actually serves a couple of purposes. First, as with most televised sports it is entertaining; but, most important is the opportunity to have an inside look at how the pros play, very much like sitting in a classroom at school. Although you did not make mention of the moral aspects of playing poker it is implied that you consider poker to be morally corrupting. We believe that poker is a wonderful past time and I am most happy it has finally come out of the dark, smoke filled closet to center stage. The players that go on to become professionals will have a very bright future, a respectable vocation and a most lucrative occupation. Poker is the only casino game the IRS classifies as a game of skill instead of random chance. It is the only casino endeavor where a player can legally and consistently win (Yes, I know there exist a very minute group of practicing blackjack card counters that can win). Many of our readers have considerable experience and expertise in all aspects of the game of poker and they also have kids so I'm appealing to them to help out here and share their expertise through their comments about this often controversial subject.
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